In 2020, I was pregnant with twins. At my anatomy scan, I found out I had lost the first one. I went home still carrying the second. Grief and hope living in the same body, not knowing what to do with that.
Then at 23 weeks, I went into preterm labour. And I lost him too. One at a time.
In the months that followed, I searched for something that understood what I was carrying. Something that knew I was still their mother. That wouldn't rush me, or tell me it was early, or suggest I try again as if they were replaceable.
I couldn't find it.
What I found instead were apps that weren't built for this. Forums that felt cold. Well-meaning people who said the wrong things. Silence where there should have been presence.
After almost two years of trying, I got pregnant again in 2022. And then I had another miscarriage. This one was long and traumatic, and it took a serious toll on my body. I was grieving again, differently this time, but just as deeply.
What I kept coming back to was the space in between. The space between the crisis moments and the okay ones. The 2am thoughts. The anniversaries no one else remembers. The days when you are functioning but still carrying something enormous and invisible. That space had nothing built for it.
Grief is not a problem to be solved. It is love with nowhere left to go. And I needed somewhere to put that love. Gently, privately, without judgment, without a timeline.
Solace is for that in-between space. For the moments that don't fit into a therapy session or a support group. For when you just need something to be there.
So I built it.
I built Solace from my phone, with no technical background, while raising my children and working full time. I built it because I knew I wasn't the only one searching for this. I built it because the app I needed didn't exist. So I made it exist.
Solace is for anyone who has lost someone. A baby. A partner. A parent. A friend. A pet. It doesn't matter how long ago, or how the world measured the loss. If you are carrying grief, you belong here.
You don't have to carry it alone.